J Krishnamurti on Relationship

To understand relationships we must first understand what attachments are and why the mind is get attached to several different things?

We are psychologically lonely inside and to overcome fear of loneliness we gets attached to other things for security. Where there is attachment there is suffering. Throughout life we keep adding different attachments and if we lose any of them then we suffer. 

Attachment is 'what is' and the mind has created detachment as 'what should be'. Attachment is fact and detachment is an illusion. Opposite of fact is an illusion which creates division between fact and illusions. Mind is wasting its energy in escaping from fear of attachments by creating opposites like detachment. Mind should remain with suffering instead of escaping and creating illusions. Society has created illusory concepts like suffering. Our mind follows the same concepts created by society, its just words only. The word is not the thing, the description is not the described. Suffering is just a psychological concept and not reality. The mind is attached to psychological concepts. 

When the mind remains completely with 'what is' (suffering), without any escape, that brings an energy which dissolves all sufferings. 

All attachments are remembrance of the past memories. If our mind is acting in the present on past concepts then it is not in the present but is in the past. If Present is the continuation of the past, means we always live in the past. We never know what is the present and what is real. 

When one lives in the present there is no attachment. Attachment is remembrance of the past. If our life is dictated by the past attachments then it is not the actual living. Tradition is the past and is the betrayal of the present. 

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